First six months dating
‘This is TRB’s new girlfriend’, she said, without a thought. It’s only the third time I’ve met her, and for all I know, the last time TRB saw her brother-in-law, maybe he had a different girlfriend. because after 6 months together, things don’t feel all that new at all.
The Older You Get, The Quicker Stuff Moves I’ve commented before about some of my original 30 Dates, and just how much their lives have changed in the 18 months since the challenge ended. One guy who asked me out during the challenge (but who I turned down, because I knew him already) even has a child now! And so, whilst 6 months may seem rather ‘new’ when you’ve been with your husband over 10 years, when you’ve been single (and picky!
It’s a slight exaggeration, and I’ve probably spent 6 months in a relationship with half a dozen guys over the years. But it’s interesting, because all of those relationships were in my teens and twenties.
And suddenly being in my thirties adds a different spin to the relationship.
In the first six months, we allow ourselves to be emotionally open. When you start fighting with each other, however, we take something back.
The findings suggest saying ‘I love you’ happens on average at five months of dating (144 days), with British daters also seeing this as the perfect time to embark on a very modern dating milestone: updating their social media relationship status (157 days).
The study also sheds some light on that all-important six-month mark, suggesting that this is when three major relationship milestones take place: the revealing of one’s imperfections (173 days), the first argument (170 days) and when most parental introductions take place.
And you can normally begin to gauge someone’s stance on children just from the way they interact with other peoples’ kids. ) it’s not unreasonable to check in and see that his ideals for the future are similar than mine.
Spend some time working out if the rest of the stuff lines up before you start having those awkward conversations. Because 6 months may not be a long time, but if I were to spend another 6 months, or a couple more years, finding out the answers to those awkward, but important, questions, I might find myself regretting ‘wasting’ my thirties on someone who doesn’t have the same ideas for the future as I do.